A Little Self-Care Never Hurt Anybody...

If you're anything like me, you're hard on yourself, like REALLY hard on yourself. So, when things don't turn out as planned, you get a little down and need some serious self-care like I do. 

It's funny how we are harshest on ourselves when we, of all people know how hard we've worked for something, and yet we still give ourselves shit for it. Well, the time to stop acting so high and mighty over ourselves is done. 

It seems like the world of crystals and chakras, essential oils and diffusers is at an all time high, which to me, is awesome because my friends make fun of me MUCH less for the crystals in every pocket of my pants, purse, coat etc. 

So if these things can be so widely accepted now, its safe to say taking a little time each day for some self-love should be right up there too. 

I have a special place in my bedroom that I filled with all my crystals, diffuser, pictures I love, a plant & some books I can reach to when I need a little pick me up. It's very important to have a little sanctuary to retreat to (besides the place EVERYONE knows I love most - my bath tub), where you can get a little personal quiet time to reset, recharge and renew your inner happy kid. 

Some self-care activities I really enjoy include:
 taking a hot bubble bath
reading a biography or self-help book
lighting a candle
blasting some tunes or a podcast
having a cup of tea and hiding in my happy place
catching up on sleep (going to bed early! YES! this is self-care too!)
putting on a face mask
taking a walk
journalling (getting it out helps to ease anxiety)
catching up with a little Netflix

What are ways you practice self-care? I'm always interested in hearing back from you guys! So let me know in the comments below!


2018, New Year - Same but Improved ME!

We all know resolutions are dropped before January even ends, so that's not what we're going to do this year. No, this year I'm giving myself some attainable goals to achieve in 2018. 

It's very easy to get discouraged when the resolutions or goals are too lofty, so I've decided to set several smaller attainable goals that I can just build on as they get smashed!

My 2018 Goals

  • Drink more water
  • Save money
  • Workout regularly
  • Meal Prep 
  • Get more sleep (have a regular routine)
  • Cut added sugars (this one isn't going to be pretty, but I'm going to try my damnedest!)
  • Take Self-Care more seriously
  • Don't let negative people affect me
  • Watch less TV (this will be hard, I binge like a mother)

What are your goals for 2018?

2017 in Review

An entire year summarized in just a couple paragraphs. I wish it was harder, but this year, was very uneventful personally. However, it doesn't mean I didn't get to experience some really high high's and some very low low's.

Pretty big highs this year included the birth of two of my new favourite gentleman & an adorable little lady. Elliot came into the world in February, Theodore followed suit in April and lastly, Elliot's cousin, Zoe rounded our year of babies out in October. 

In the short time these babes have been in the world it's been wild watching them grow up and even more amazing has been watching the guys I've known since my teens grow into men and then into big marshmallows over their kids - it's been remarkable. 

Another pretty great experience in 2017 was my first trip to Europe in August. A friend found himself smitten with a beautiful english lady and fancied himself a wedding. This meant myself and our merry band of misfits (and 2 of 3 babies!) made the journey to Nottingham England for a charming country wedding.

We spent several days in Nottingham, then all by myself I made my way to London and then on to Amsterdam for a few days before meeting up with my boyfriend and the band he works for. I was able to travel with the band for a week and got to experience a German festival, Antwerp Belgium and Paris. It was an absolutely whirlwind experience and I can't wait to get back to Europe for another adventure.

I must admit the lowest low's rocked the highs in 2017.

In 2017 I lost two coworkers I considered friends to suicide. Two. 

I've never felt shock and numbness like I did in those situations. It's so hard to wrap your mind around the struggles of mental health and knowing someone just couldn't handle their fight on their own. I just wish these friends had reached out and asked for the help that was so readily available to them. 

They may be gone from this physical plane, but the marks they left on those that worked with them and their families & friends will never be fully gone. 

If you are experiencing depression please contact your family doctor for the support you need. And if you're having suicidal thoughts, PLEASE reach out to someone for help. The Ontario Mental Health Helpline: 1-866-531-2600 or go to a crisis centre in your local area - listings located here: Distress & Crisis Ontario

Another low this year for me has been in my relationship. Without going into details about this (as it's much too personal to share with the masses as we figure out our situation), it's been a messy road of tears, yelling, anxiety, numbness, anger and some nights spent watching too many romantic comedies and crying.

I've been a little embarrassed about this, I mean, who really wants to admit they're going through something with their partner, but that's life truthfully, and though it's caused me serious heartache, working on fixing it will be the truest challenge I face in 2018. I'm ready and willing to put in the work and so is he.

So it wasn't just events that were high and low this year, but things like my motivation and will power were tested as well. I have a VERY unmotivated 2017 (which is funny because I went back to school and aced my program!), I let my fitness fall to the wayside, I didn't actually update this blog at all & I very seldom wanted to go out and socialize. 

I ate terribly all year & it sucks. You truly do feel the weight of bad choices after awhile. It's scary amazing how your body works I tell you! 

Don't get me wrong, I had a pretty great year this year, I don't want anyone thinking I'm sad, because as of now, I'm not. I've got myself motivated for 2018 and in the next post you'll read all about the plans I've got and the goals I want to set for myself over the next 12 months. 

I must admit, I can't wait! 

My 2017 Goals!

2017 is fast approaching and I wanted to share my goals with you. I try not to set specific timeframes for these goals, they're more things I really want to work on, things I think will help me live a better life. 

Well these are the things I want to try to focus on in 2017, what are you most excited about trying/changing in the new year?

- Carlybellexo